• It feels like you’re always playing a game of catch up - with the dishes and the laundry, with the piles of paper from the mail and from your child’s school, with work, with every single one of your relationships, and with everything else that’s on your plate.
• You’re always rushing everywhere, racing to fit in as much as you can in the tiny bits of time you have available.
• You sigh way more than you used to. Your life just feels so hard all the time.
• You know you need more “self-care” in your life. You just can’t figure out how you’d find the time to do it.
• It never feels like you get to the end of your day because there’s always more that needs to get done. It’s more like you only get a short pause before it’s daylight (or before someone else is awake and needs you) and then it’s time to get up and start doing all over again.
• You try to create a protective bubble around work but your home life keeps breaking through - your child’s daycare calls because your son is sick again and they want you to come pick him up now, you’re late again because you couldn’t find your toddler’s shoes (and when you did, it took forever to get him to sit still long enough to get them on his feet), or the nanny texts that she needs to leave early today because of her family emergency.
• You’re prickly with your husband; everything he does or says seems to set you off. All it takes is one comment about how he saw an ant on the counter and you snap, telling him that if keeping the kitchen clean is so important, maybe he could pick up a sponge once in a while.
And now you’ll have to find time to fix that problem.
You know you can do anything you put your mind to. But when you try to do everything, you end up giving your family, your work, and all of your relationships only the Leftover You.
Trying to do it all sabotages your marriage, your health, and your happiness. You can’t climb your way out of overwhelm by doing more, more, more. But that’s exactly the mistake many moms make. It was the mistake I made when my kids were younger - and the lesson that I needed to relearn last year when I added writing a book and building a new business onto my already super-full plate.
In the past, I believed that working hard and then working even harder could solve any problem. But I learned the hard way that my old mantra just isn’t true. Working hard doesn’t solve the baby’s colic. Working harder doesn’t magically make more time in your schedule for your kids. Working hard just adds more when what you need is less - fewer commitments, less stress, a lighter load all around.
Join me on my Friday Free Call for moms on February 5th. I’ll talk about why it’s so important to stop spreading yourself so thin. And, in honor of Valentine’s Day, I’ll also talk about ways to make more room for your marriage on your already full plate. If you can’t make the call, sign up anyway to get the recording so you can listen to the call when it works best for you. Sign up for the call here.
Hope you can join the call!